As much as I’m a fan of partnered sex, I’ve learned that the best (and easiest) way to elevate any sexual experience is by bringing couples’ sex toys into the equation. These are not just toys you use with a partner(s) in the bedroom, but they also include devices that can be controlled remotely—whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or your partner is on a business trip.
Advances in sex tech and overall mainstream acceptance have shed the stigma that using one of these gadgets means something is lacking in a couple’s sex life. Instead, these sex toys are seen as an extra hand, so to speak, allowing for deeper exploration and other ways to experience pleasure together.
Not sure where to start? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. I’ve been testing and reviewing sex toys for close to a decade, and I’m here to help you figure out exactly which couples’ sex toy is going to be most compatible for you and your partner.
Not every sex toy on this list may apply to every gender and sexuality, but there’s still something for everyone here. Be sure to check out our other sex tech guides, including the Best Sex Toys, Best Vibrators, Best Clitoral Suction Toys, Best Lubes, Best Sex Machines, and Best Mattresses for Sex.
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### Why Might You Want a Couples’ Sex Toy?
There’s no one reason why someone might want to give a couples’ sex toy a try. For some, it may be simply a matter of curiosity and seeing what all the hubbub is about, while for others, there could be an interest in wanting to explore other ways in which sexual pleasure can be enjoyed together.
It’s important to realize that wanting to experiment with couples’ sex toys doesn’t say anything negative about your sex life or even remotely suggest that something is lacking. Instead, being open to the idea speaks volumes about how much you and your partner prioritize the sexual aspect of your relationship, your desire to understand each other’s wants and needs better, as well as work on your communication skills when it comes to sex-related topics.
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### How to Broach the Subject of Sex Toys With Your Partner
If you and your partner have never used couples’ sex toys (or even standard sex toys for that matter), then the first step is broaching the subject in an honest and open way.
If you’re someone who already has a stash of sex toys you use when you’re rolling solo, then you can start the conversation by explaining how much pleasure you derive from using sex toys alone and that it’s something you’d like to share with them.
Although sex toy use has become very mainstream, there are still some people who aren’t totally on board. Some partners might see the subject of couples’ sex toys as you hinting that you’re not satisfied in the relationship.
If this is the feedback you get from your partner, it’s important to explain that using sex toys together isn’t about replacing a partner but rather about enhancing what you already have. After all, sex tech innovation can do things that the human body just can’t, creating other ways to have fun and even tap into possible kinks neither one of you may have realized you had.
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### What to Look for in a Couples’ Sex Toy?
The first thing to take into consideration is what interests you most.
– Are you looking for a bit of a helping hand in the clitoral stimulation department during penetration?
– Or are you looking for a device that can aid in foreplay so both you and your partner can prolong those intimate sessions?
– If you and your partner are in a long-distance relationship and are hoping to find a vibrating dildo, cock ring, or butt plug that can be controlled by an app, then that’s the direction to take your search.
Reading reviews of couples’ sex toys, as well as the information on the device’s packaging, will really help guide you in your search. You may find yourself dealing with a bit of trial and error, but that’s part of the fun.
No matter what toy you decide on, make sure it’s made of body-safe silicone, especially if it will be used internally.
In addition to material, features are also something to consider:
– Is it waterproof or only splash-proof?
– Is it best for someone with a penis or someone with a clitoris?
Being able to answer these questions before you start your couples’ sex toy shopping will really help you narrow down what’s likely to be the best fit for you and your partner.
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### Other Sex Toys to Consider
Here are a few other toys that aren’t quite as great as the top picks but are still worth a try.
**Lelo Tor 3 – $116**
If you love cock rings but wish they were app-enabled, meet the Lelo Tor 3. While at first the Tor 3 looks very snug, this ring is extremely flexible, making it a perfect fit for all penises or strap-ons. It’s designed to stimulate the clitoris when paired with a partner who has a vulva.
Although you can score a whopping two hours of playtime with Tor 3, it’s paramount that you don’t exceed 30 minutes of restricted blood flow to the penis. And if at any time things start to hurt — not in a good way — remove the ring immediately.
Unlike the Dame Hug, the Tor 3 doesn’t have pinchable arms, so it’s up to users to be mindful of time limits and potential side effects.
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**Unbound Bender – $69**
The Unbound Bender isn’t marketed specifically as a couples’ sex toy, but as far as I’m concerned, it absolutely is.
The Bender earns its name because it bends this way and that, making both external and internal stimulation fun. Similar to the Dame Pom, it’s not app-connected but offers couples a chance to experiment with different types of stimulation from head to toe — either as foreplay or the main event.
With 10 vibration modes and two hours of run time, you and your partner can light some candles, put on your favorite album, and explore each other’s bodies. Safe for vaginal and anal play, the Bender’s versatility really allows you to get creative in how you use it.
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**B-Vibe Rimming Plug 2 – $108**
Ilana Wexler said, “It’s 2014. Anal is on the menu,” in *Broad City*, over a decade ago, so it would be profoundly wrong not to include the remote-controlled B-Vibe Rimming Plug 2.
This toy falls into the couples’ sex toy category thanks to its easy-to-use remote. Whether you’re new to anal stimulation or a seasoned fan, this plug offers everything you’d want.
It’s not too big, and people with prostates will thoroughly enjoy the internal stimulation, not to mention the rotating beads at the base of the plug that stimulate the anus — adding a sensation anyone with a butt can enjoy.
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